If you suffer from social anxiety, you will fear certain situation. This can vary from person to person, some fear speaking in front of groups of people, some fear meeting new people, while others fear to go to party, meeting or other types of social events.
In whichever situation you are fear arises, you will probably experience sweating, flushing, palpitations, or other symptoms of anxiety. One of the primary symptoms you will feel is thinking others will judge you, or finding yourself lacking in some way.
No matter what your symptoms are, or where they hit you, there are things you can do on your own to deal with social anxiety:
Most people with social anxiety want to hide, avoid or run away from whatever they are scared of. But by facing your anxiety instead, you will find it is usually something you can tolerate after a few exposures. However, you may want to try this in a situation that brings a relatively low level of anxiety first. When using this method, focus on what is going on around you instead of what is going through your mind.
It is very difficult to deal with your anxiety if you are in the state of denial. In fact, the very first step you need to take to get over any problem is to acknowledge you have one. Then, you can go about finding a solution.
2.) Deep muscle relaxation
Learning to consciously relax is one of the best ways to fight anxiety. It is impossible to feel anxious and relax at the same time. For deep muscle relaxation, you can gently apply some pressure on your major group of muscles such as your shoulder or leg muscles. By doing so, you can increase the blood circulation in that region and help to release the muscle tension.
3.) Slow breathing
Controlling your breathing when you are anxious is another good way to deal with your emotions. When you are anxious, your breathing becomes shallow and faster. As a result, you will feel light headed and dizzy, making your anxiety worse. Learning to
Learning to breath slowly and regularly will help you calm down. This technique won’t completely resolve your anxiety, but it will help you to feel better in handling the situation you are experiencing.
Whenever you feel anxious, try to picture yourself in a place or with a person that makes you feel safe and secured. The key of doing so is to remind yourself that you are in control of the situation. Over time, you will start getting used to the sense of internal calamity and it will help you to lower your anxious feeling when the trigger hits you.
Over time, you will start getting used to the sense of internal calamity and it will help you to lower your anxious feeling when the trigger hits you.
5.) Do not feed the negative thoughts
Faulty thinking is the hallmark of social anxiety, believing that others are judging you and finding you faulty in some way is a majorly detrimental way of thinking that occurs. So it is very important to evaluate whether those thoughts are true. Ask yourself for proof.
People with social anxiety tend of overestimate how badly others think of them. Keep in mind, your thoughts are only guesses about what others will think, or what you will do. The way you think is a matter of habit, and habits can be changed.
Remember, none of these methods will work if you underestimate them or give up only after a few attempts. It takes a lot of practice and patience stretched over time in order to overcome anxiety.
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